Margaret Higgins Sanger, an American birth control activist, sex educator, and nurse. Sanger coined the term birth control, opened the first birth control clinic in the United States, and established Planned Parenthood. (via anchors-aweighlove)
I can play, too. Everyone here knows Abraham Lincoln right? He’s the guy that freed the slaves! He did good things, right? He’s a good guy, right?
“I will say then that I am not, nor ever have been in favor of bringing about in any way the social and political equality of the white and black races, that I am not nor ever have been in favor of making voters or jurors of negroes, nor of qualifying them to hold office, nor to intermarry with white people; and I will say in addition to this that there is a physical difference between the white and black races which I believe will forever forbid the two races living together on terms of social and political equality. And inasmuch as they cannot so live, while they do remain together there must be the position of superior and inferior, and I as much as any other man am in favor of having the superior position assigned to the white race.”
Surprise, surprise, there’s racist roots in a lot of shit because THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA WAS FOUNDED ON FUCKING RACISM.
It started in yoga. I couldn’t quite get comfortable; no matter how many times I cracked my back and hips, I felt stiff and strained. By the time I got home, I was feeling nauseous on top of it. An hour and 1000mg of Ibuprofen later, I was writhing in agony. The pain was unbearable, radiating halfway up my spine, and down to my knees. I was nauseous, feverish, and my face looked identical to the “10″ on hospital pain scales. I was in such pain that my boyfriend had to physically carry me like a baby to the bathroom and the bedroom. The pain didn’t even start to subside for three hours.
In other words, I was starting my period. If you’re a squeamish Republican legislator, stop reading.
“Men’s indifference to learning about contraception and to taking any responsibility for it is a theme that emerges from many reports of projects that have attempted, and failed, to reach and educate men. One of the most successful programs of contraception education for men, a Planned Parenthood project in Chicago, abandoned its attempts to reach men over the age of twenty-five when it was found that these men simply would not participate, even when offered beer, sandwiches, free condoms—and “stag” movies. Instead, the project targeted a younger group, and as part of its research the project conducted a survey of over a thousand men aged fifteen to nineteen:
• These young men were asked whether they agreed with the statement “It’s okay to tell a girl you love her so that you can have sex with her.” Seven out of ten agreed that it’s okay.
• They were asked whether they agreed with the statement “A guy should use birth control whenever possible.” Eight out of ten disagreed and said a guy should not.
• And when asked, “If I got a girl pregnant, I would want her to have an abortion,” nearly nine out of ten said no, they would not want her to have an abortion. These teenage men agreed: Deception to obtain coital access is okay; male irresponsibility in contraception is okay; but abortion is not okay—“because it’s wrong.”
Largely because of attitudes such as these, one million teenage women—one tenth of all teenage women—become pregnant each year, and two thirds of their pregnancies are not wanted.”
—John Stoltenberg, Refusing to be a Man
I think these responses about not wanting to be responsible about contraception also kind of go hand in hand with why over 80% of single parents are women*.
If you aren’t willing to use protection during sex and don’t even feel that it’s your responsibility, I’m not going to expect you to suddenly find your sense of responsibility when your partner ends up pregnant.
How many of those teenage women* become single parents? I’m going to say the majority.
Woman: Can I have birth control?
Woman: I got pregnant because I didn’t have birth control and I don’t want the fetus. Can I have an abortion?
Woman: I gave birth to my child but since I wasn’t expecting it, I can’t afford daycare. Can I have help paying for it?
I’m angry and I don’t know what to do about it.
Listening to and reading about all sorts of arguments against abortion pisses me off. It really, honestly, and truly pisses me off. It angers me for a variety of reasons, one of the top being that people are deciding that they are in charge of what you can and can not do with your body. Another stings with a bite of hypocrisy:
These women decide that they can’t or shouldn’t have this baby right now. They acknowledge that they don’t have the financial means to give birth and take care of a baby, the physical health to give birth, the physical health to take care of a baby, the mental health to give birth to a stillborn or handicapped child, the mental health to be a mother, the mental health and/or financial means to take care of another child, that this child would ruin their life, that they’re simply not ready for the responsibility and weight of being pregnant and eventually a mother, or any other number of reasons. Whatever these reasons are doesn’t matter, because no matter which way you look at it, these women acknowledge their shortcomings in potentially being the child’s mother. They avoid being irresponsible by acknowledging this and refusing to go through with it. They acknowledge their incapability in handling the immense responsibility of being a mother throughout pregnancy and after birth.
They are being responsible by acknowledging their own shortcomings, whatever they may be. And people who vote against abortion are punishing them for their foresight and self-awareness. They look at these scared, self-conscious women who are making a difficult, wise choice by looking for a safe and legal way to deny taking on responsibility they can’t handle and these people practically say, “Oh, now you definitely should have to have the kid now.”
Why the hell do they even want women who would “murder a child” to raise said child? Why? As punishment? Aren’t children supposed to be blessings? If children are being used as a punishment then they’re acknowledging that children will inevitably cause you financial and mental hell. And personally, when you didn’t want it in the first place, I don’t view anything with those side effects as a blessing.
Also, if these women know they aren’t financially capable of paying birth costs, vaccines, diapers, formula, food, furniture, toys, and hell, even have the financial freedom to take time off from work, how the hell are they going to do it? Many pro-lifers, conservative Republicans, also tend to vote against social welfare programs which would help these women who are incapable of supporting the child they didn’t want. What kind of sick twist is that? Not only did you already punish the woman by forcing her to accept a responsibility she knows she can’t handle, you would choose to punish her further by denying her charitable financial help from the people who forced her to have the baby in the first place. At least be consistent.
Maybe the argument is “Well, she shouldn’t have gotten pregnant in the first place!” What a stupid overstatement. Saying this implies that she consciously chose to get pregnant purely for the desire to have an abortion or raise the kid in a strained environment. These women didn’t choose to get pregnant with a baby that they knew they couldn’t handle. Choosing to get an abortion doesn’t automatically mean that she’s doing it for fun or frivolously. It can be a traumatizing decision, but they’re making it because they know it’s the better choice for the both of them in the long run.
Maybe they wanted the baby, and it just didn’t work out. Something is physically wrong with the baby or the mother that would make giving birth so much worse than ending it early.
This only scratches the surface of what makes me angry about people who actively try to condemn abortion. I didn’t even talk about being pregnant with a rapist’s baby, because, fucking hell. The woman’s choice about her body was already violently taken away once. Taking away her choice again and forcing a raped woman to go through with her pregnancy is almost exactly like what the rapist did, except this time, it physically lasts for at least nine months versus the duration of time she was raped. And instead of a penis being forced into her vagina, something the size of a toaster is being pushed out of her vagina. Fucking hell, sometimes I hate people. People hating on the right to choose an abortion offends me, so I’m rather in the mood to offend them.
You can be against abortion. I don’t give a flying fuck whatever your personal morals dictate about abortion as long as you don’t start forcing other people to follow your own rules for yourself. You can’t even say your invisible sky daddy is telling you to feel this way about abortion. This atrocity is all on your decision making skills, and that makes it worse, because you choose to feel this way without it even being a staple of your religious beliefs. You choose to say that you feel the addition of another child in this world is more important than preserving the someone’s pre-existing way of life.
If children are that important to you, you goddamn better sure as hell be doing your hardest to improve the lives of children already on this planet. Not even just starving, homeless children in foreign countries and your own city, you better be working to improve public education systems, foster care programs, and accessible healthcare for children from poor families for starters.
You should be working to provide a better world for everyone already living here, not forcing more people into a crowded world that you’ve been abusing and taking for granted.
I want to give the world this post. There are no words in existence to describe the beauty of it.